Emotionally healthy people are thanks givers. Thanks living is a way of life for them. They focus on gratitude and the positive things in life. Study after study has shown the benefits of blessing seeing.
As with much of life, it comes down to our choices. We have a choice of what we want to focus on.
Here are a couple choices we can make to live thanks giving daily:
Choose to live rejoicing.
When the proverbial rug is pulled out from under us or we suffer unimaginable horrific pain, we still have a choice of how to attack the situation to get the most benefit from it.
A positive focus puts us in the frame of mind to see the opportunities that exist in the midst of the pain.
Critics will say that this exercise is just a mental trick. Yes! It is a mental habit that prevents us from going down a dark mental staircase that leads us to despair. When we are in that dark place, clear thinking goes out the window. Positive solutions are nowhere to be found.
Reframing to see the positives helps us get on the solution side of the tragic event.
Secretariat, the now famous race horse, was featured in an inspirational movie a few years ago. It told the story of the Tweedy family who owned the horse. Mr. Tweedy, the patriarch of the family passes away, so his daughter, Penny Chenery, (played by Diane Lane) takes on the oversight of the farm and horse. Her husband and close family members urge her to sell it and move on. She decides against that option and instead trains the horse to run. But finding funding is difficult. She tries to sell breeding shares to the horse. No one wants to take the risk.
In one scene, after many rejections, Penny is alone in the barn reflecting on what is going to happen next. She is joined by a couple employees and she says to them, “I don’t care how many times they say it can’t be done. I will not live the rest of my life in regret and no matter what happens we are going to live rejoicing every day!”
I admire her grit and determination to live rejoicing.
Focus on the positive because it opens the flow of joy in our life.
Don’t let anxiety pull you apart
This is easy to say but not easy to do. We have legitimate worries. We want to protect ourselves, our family, our cars and our homes. That’s a good thing. But it can be carried to an extreme.
You have probably heard the well-traveled story about the wife who always thought burglars were prowling around their home. At least once a week, she’d wake up her husband in the middle of the night to investigate a noise in the house. One night she heard it again. She woke him up. “Get up! Get up! Someone is downstairs.”
He is overly familiar with the routine. This time when he got to the bottom of the steps he comes face to face with a real life burglar. The burglar had a sack of valuables in his hand and was heading toward the door. “Wait,” the husband said. “Before you leave, I’d love for you to come upstairs and meet my wife. She’s been waiting for you for 20 years!”
Anxiety can easily get out of hand and quickly turn into extreme worry.
Worry gets in the way of thanks giving because it causes us to focus on the things we lack. We feel pulled apart internally. Our emotions become like the salt water taffy machines we’ve seen on vacation. Whatever is worrying us is turned over and over in our mind.
Focusing on what we have to help us deal with what is troubling us gives us the courage to face what life throws at us.
What are some tips that help you reduce the pull of worry? I’d love to hear your thoughts!