A new year looms on the horizon like the rising sun. With it comes a new set of choices. One choice we have is how we will impact others in the coming year.
Life has a way of forcing us to choose how we will impact others. We will find ourselves in unpredictable and uncontrollable circumstances in the coming year. We can control our reaction and try to impact others positively.
I was reminded of that once again this holiday season when I watched the classic movie, It’s a Wonderful Life, starring Jimmy Stewart as George Bailey.
In the movie, Angel Second Class, Clarence (Henry Travers) finally convinces George that he does indeed have an impact on people. Our lives matter. We really do influence the people in our life, whether it is obvious to us or not. So why not be positively intentional about it?
Some people we impact:
Who are the people on the edges of our relational world?
They are the people we pass by every day without noticing. They are the ones among us we might not ordinarily think about in the course of our day. They are easily forgotten. They are the people who can’t repay us for our efforts to help them. They have nothing to offer us except the opportunity to impact them for good.
Cal Thomas, a newspaper and television commentator asks, “Ever give a gift to someone you know can’t afford to reciprocate and suddenly realize that you have already received a greater gift that can never become obsolete, worn out or devalued?” (Read the article here)
It holds true for non-material gifts as well. The gift of our time and attention can do wonders for the forgotten people in our relational sphere.
We take delight in honoring our friends.
The late Chicago columnist Mike Royko writes about a conversation he had with Slats Grobnik, a man who sold Christmas trees. Slats remembered one couple looking for a Christmas tree. The guy was skinny with a big Adam’s apple and small chin, and she was kind of pretty. Both wore clothes from the bottom of the bin of the Salvation Army store.
They searched through trees that were too expensive, but then they found a Scotch pine that was okay on one side, but pretty bare on the other. Then they picked up another tree that was not much better—full on one side, scraggly on the other. The woman whispered something to her partner, and he asked if $3 would be okay. Slats figured the trees would not be sold, so he agreed to sell both of them for $3.
A few days later Slats is walking down the street when he sees a beautiful tree in the couple’s apartment window. It is thick and well rounded. He knocks on their door and they tell him how they worked the two trees close together where the branches were thin. Then they tied the trunks together. The branches overlapped and formed a tree so thick you couldn’t see the wire. Slats said, “It looked like a tiny forest of its own.”
“So that’s the secret. You take two trees that aren’t perfect, that have flaws that might even be homely, that maybe nobody else would want. If you put them together just right, you can come up with something really beautiful.” (From: Mike Royko, One More Time, Pages 85-87)
That’s what friendship looks like. Two imperfect people who are perfect for each other and make each other stronger.
How will we impact our friends this year by letting them know how valuable and special they are?
Family is closest to us, know us best and love us most. Our impact is felt most on them.
In our hustle and bustle life, time with family can be the first thing to be skipped. The start of a new year is the perfect time to regroup. Quality family time doesn’t just happen. It is best planned out ahead of time. We plan things that are most important to us.
We never know where our impact is going to come from or where it is going to lead us. The opportunities to impact the people in our relational world come every day.
What we do matters more than we can see or imagine.